On Being

Originally posted December 31, 2007

The purpose of life is to be.  In being, you express the diversity of creation, and thus fulfill your part in creation.  To be is to express the joy of creation, and to share in that joy.  In being there is no suffering, only joy.

To be means to be who, and how, you really are, and not who you are expected to be, or who you want yourself to be.  To be means to rid yourself of all preconceptions and expectations, all goals and desires, and allow yourself to be, without judgement or restriction of any kind.In being, there is nothing you are meant to do.  Existence is not about doing.  Doing comes from being.  When you are being who you really are, whatever you do will come naturally without thought, without goal, without expectation.

Most people, however, are preoccupied with doing, or with trying to be other than they are.  Early in life, we often learn through experience that others who’s support we need for survival have their own expectations about how we should be or what we should do.  We often learn the habit of adopting their expectations as our own in an effort to receive their support, or more of it.  As we pick up this habit very early, the adopted expectations become embedded deep in our psyche, becoming part of our identity.  When these adopted expectations do not coincide with who we really are, a resistance, or friction is created within us.  The friction itself reduces the efficiency with which we function in the world.

The fundamental habit we learn is to set a goal to be other than we are, and to adjust our internal and external behavior, and the world, to achieve that goal.  The more we do this successfully, the more we come to believe that this is the way to survive in this world.  The more we are successful, the more frustrating are those goals which we fail to reach, when in fact we are unaware that it is the goal itself which is the cause of frustration, even when we succeed.

This habit then becomes the foundation of our reality, and of our society.  When we are very successful at achieving the goal of being other than we are, we believe we have wisdom, and we seek to teach it to others.  We even learn that since almost everyone believes in this rule of success, we can manipulate others into achieving goals we set for them, and we, and often they, believe we do the right thing. This cycle of goal and achievement becomes a non sustainable increase of friction within our psyche.  Those of us who are very strong can sustain this until they achieve material success and attain the freedom to “take it easy”.  Some even stronger can maintain this until they die of old age.  Most of us however realize at some point that a goal, one or many, particular or general, is unattainable, and we give up.  But even then, we do not see the fundamental flaw of the goal based system, rather we only see our failure to sustain it, and we judge our failure and create a feeling of inadequacy for ourselves.  We decide that we “just want to get by”, replacing our failed, grander goals with smaller, closer, attainable ones.  We find ourselves suddenly lost, far from who we really are, with no directions to go back or forward, so we just go in circles, placing great importance on the superficial things in life.  Others keep going until they break, in mind, body or both.